If you’re lucky enough you may have a couple friends you’ve met blogging who inspire your own work or you give you a special kick, sometimes in the butt. That’s my friend Ross at Drinking Tips for Teens, aka my pimp daddy, who read and commented on all of my early posts, when it seemed like no one else was noticing (because they weren’t).
Enjoy this piece he’s written today for my Saturday spring guest post series and link below to buy his first novel, A Hole in the Ground.
A love letter to a love letter
by Ross Murray
Chapter 1. He idolized his brother-in-law. Whether it was going to movies with him or mailing funny letters back and forth – letters that might be assembled to look like ransom notes – he felt at last that here was an adult figure who actually seemed to like him.
(No, too self-pitying, and not necessarily true.)
Chapter 1. He had forgotten the fast talking his brother-in-law had done at the box office to get his 13-year-old companion into an R-rated movie. It was 1979. The boy had come to visit his sister and her husband in the city. Movies were something to do in the evening. His brother-in-law had already reached godlike status two years earlier by taking him to see Star Wars, making him the first person in his Grade 6 class to see it, a status he continues to claim to this day.
(Too confusing. All those third-person masculine pronouns. Is his brother-in-law in Grade 6? Better just tell it straight.)
Chapter 1. I forget sometimes that, in 1979, even though he was 10 years older than me, my brother-in-law was essentially still a kid himself. But I couldn’t see that. He was a big, bearded, funny guy who gave me his time when I visited Halifax on my own. Still, it may not have been his best judgement to take me to see Manhattan, Woody Allen’s love letter to New York.
I’d been going to movies all my young life. Besides the Disney fare I might see with my family, my town’s single cinema showed Saturday matinees, often older run movies, like every single Jerry Lewis film.
Star Wars had introduced to me the idea of film as experience. That same year, I had my first movie date: Close Encounters of a Third Kind. I couldn’t make heads or tails out of it, mostly because I was so nervous about the girl. She didn’t help matters by sending me out to the concession stand every half hour. We did not date again.
Manhattan, though, was a different experience altogether.
My original memories of Manhattan have been shaded by subsequent viewing, just as my interpretation of the film has changed over the years. As a 13-year-old, for instance, it never occurred to me that the relationship between Allen’s character and Mariel Hemingway’s Tracy was unhealthy. To me, she was just a pretty, younger girl he had to make some hard decisions about.
Still, even I knew there was something different going on, something complex, something a long, long way from Jerry Lewis.
For starters, there was the opening. Chapter 1. I grew up in a musical household, so I knew Gershwin. Pairing that purely American music with scenes of black and white – I remember sitting in the dark theatre wrapped up in the wonder of its beauty, the way it seemed…perfect. I watched that opening sequence again to write this piece, and I got goosebumps. I do every time.
And then the film itself. Watching Manhattan at age 13 (and a half) was like sneaking through a portal into a sophisticated world where adults strolled through urban landscapes with dramatic lighting while talking about sex, art and relationships. They agonized. They spoke in roundabout ways, not as dialogue but as conversation. They had sex and lay about afterward.
I was eavesdropping. Of all the great lines, for some reason, I remembered and repeated this sequence for months afterwards: Isaac and Mary are stretched out, post-coital. Mary says, “You’re someone I could imagine having children with.” “Really?” says Isaac, removing his glasses. “Well, hit the lights.” It was like overhearing a dirty joke and getting it. I had passed some kind of test.
Manhattan, then, became a cinematic initiation of sorts. It served as a free pass to see further adult fare: Kramer vs Kramer later that year, The Elephant Man the following spring. “But Mom,” I could always argue, “I’ve seen Manhattan!”
Beyond opening up a world of cinema to me, Manhattan exposed me to something about relationships: they were messy. Unlike the tidy resolutions of most of the films I had seen, Manhattan is not just ambiguous but wonderfully unsatisfying. What kind of relationships are these? What kind of relationships could such people possibly have? Is this what I was heading into? And did I want it? God, yes!
Years later, my sister and her husband moved to New Zealand. They split up after 25 years together, acrimoniously. He re-married a mutual friend and is estranged from his sons. I saw him about 10 years ago when we both happened to be back in Nova Scotia. We’ve since lost contact. I still think of him fondly and remember how he treated me. Manhattan was right: relationships are messy.
Ross is a writer living on the Canadian side of the Quebec-Vermont border. He writes a weekly newspaper column and runs the blog Drinking Tips for Teens. Last fall he published his first novel, A Hole in the Ground, a story about small town life, newspapers and endangered turtles.
Categories: musings
Maybe it’s something about Woody Allen. I remember the year Annie Hall won the Oscar for Best Movie. My parents took us kids to see it after it won the award. I was probably no older than you were when you saw Manhattan. I don’t know what they were thinking at the time. Maybe they thought it would be like Bananas or other lighter, sillier Allen fare. My mom insists now that they never took us to see that movie. But I remember it.
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I was mad at Annie Hall because it beat out Star Wars for the Oscar.
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Didn’t seem right at the time, did it?
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Nice
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Thanks.
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Always loved that movie, though as Woody Allen’s reputation tanked I had to filter it through a different lens. Icky! I’ll never forget the sight gag of Wallace Shawn as the sex god, Jeremiah.
I wonder what a 13-year-old made of Michael O’Donahue’s famous line …
Great piece, Ross.
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I don’t know the line. What is it?
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He’s a film director at the cocktail party, talking about his new project about this guy “who screws so great” that the woman dies.
I’m glad I didn’t hear that at 13. It was scary enough at 22 …
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I too was too young for this movie the first time I saw it, but the thing I remember most vividly about that first viewing was the dialogue. I’d never seen people talk like that on film. It was so real I thought it was, well … real. Need to watch that one again. Haven’t seen it in probably 20 years.
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I haven’t seen it actually. I’m giving Ross the courtesy to reply here but in the meantime, listened to that Beatles record last night and it didn’t hold up! WTF? What has gone wrong here is it me? I kept fast forwarding. Perhaps acid would help.
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I can see that. It’s all over the map stylistically, and not every song is a winner (I didn’t just say that, btw). But I haven’t sat down and listened to it in forever. Probably best not to discuss this publicly, as it’s practically musical blasphemy. We could go to aichee double hockey sticks.
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True. Feels perverted ranking on it like that. Better to just leave it, let it be.
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Or Something.
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It’s just too familiar, perhaps.
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Lovely little memoir! There was something quintessentially NY about Allen’s films. I love how the dialogue carried the films, without any need for embellishments of special effects or car chases. His films unfold more like a play or a novel, which is hard not to love for a writer. We watch his movies on TCM all the time.
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Send me a post Ilona for my guest series! Would like to hear one of your tales and feature it here. Need more chick power, less dude talk.
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I would love to Bill. Are you looking for new or is previously posted okay? I don’t have lots of followers so it would be new to just about everyone, except me, heh.
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Ah needs to be original, fresh…take your time, work something up, we got a couple months yet left for spring! Sharpen that pencil, swap out the ribbon. Blow the dust out of that musket.
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Happily! Thanks Bill.
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Good, looking forward to it…
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Bill I submitted a post on your about page. Inserted it into the comment slot. Hope that was the proper channel??? I’m pretty much a technosaur, being an old broad and all, as previously discussed. Thanks.
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Super! Thanks and I got it, looking forward to it! Good job Ilona and thanks! Bill
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Thanks Bill!
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Yes, and when you think of the open-ended nature of Manhattan in particular, it’s very much like a novel.
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Ross is a pimp?!?! I had no idea. I bought his book. He signed it for me and then I ruined it by reading it. Once you break the spine, it looses its value as a collectible. Just so you know.
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P.S. I’ve got the soundtrack to Manhattan. It’s in semi-regular rotation. It means a lot to me.
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That’s neat. Send me a freaking post I can feature here and don’t make me beg.
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Man, I can barely keep up with my own blog. I wrote three posts in all of March. Three!
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Dude it has 31 days, what the fuck. I posted 33 and worked full time more or less. What gives? You have a leak somewhere.
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I’m just sitting back here waiting for Ross to respond to these pearls of wisdom. (He never gets good comments like this on his blog.)
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Perhaps he’s busy pimpin’.
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Or drilling trees for maple syrup.
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I’m trapped in a mall in Burlington, Vermont. I’m the opposite of pimpin’. But give me a minute.
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I’m back. The Outback Steakhouse is the worst place on the planet and has drained any coolness that ever existed within me. That is all.
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I’m so uncool, I’m anonymous.
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You’re okay man.
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I can imagine. Got that. I feel for you and all your mall-ness. Come back to the light, to the dark.
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loved woody’s films from way back when, but really didn’t get all the references as i was too young as well. saw them as an adult through a totally different lens and still liked them, but for new reasons. i have always loved the lobsters escaping under the refrigerator.
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It’s hard to cook lobsters without thinking of that scene.
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I so agree-like trying to take a shower without thinking of psycho. Or is that just me?
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